I am John Hemmings sister and I just found out this morning from Johns daughter Louise the address of this site and the first name I recognise on the roll of honour is KYE BEN KWO the laundry man. John got very emmotional when he told me about Kye and then true to form down came this invisible barrier. I suppose it must be hard to talk to people who have not been a part of that trauma.Post Trauma Stress Syndrome was something I had'nt heard of.I have heard so many times talking about things helps but how do you talk about things when you dont have the words. Your just a ball of feelings that just gets bigger (that is from the outside is what seemed to be happening to John) and the more he tried to achieve a sustainable independant future for himself and his family the bigger and more apparent it became that something was staying with John and becoming more and more of a distraction to Johns future ambitions. Sometimes I felt he was on a treadmill going faster and faster like he was running from something getting busier and busier but the PTSS (now we know what it was) invaded everything. His work his relationships. I am so glad more is known about this condition but it does'nt help me the world is not the same without my brother.